如何培养出有安全感的成人

Nov 18, 2024

“你(上帝)仆人的后代必生生不息,在你面前安然居住。”(诗篇102:28)

当问及父母对孩子的未来期许时,你会听到诸如此类的话:开心、有安全感和自信。这些都是美好的情怀,但不能保证。那么,如何培养出这样的成年人呢?载满奖品和优异成绩的童年?选择乡间生活,远离犯罪猖獗的城市?或是尝试诸如旅游和音乐此类丰富多彩的消遣?事实上,这当中没有一件预示将来的幸福。当然这并非表示你不应鼓励孩子努力学习并出人头地。有重视知识的父母还是很重要的。不过,美好的品质不是流于外表,而是鉴于内里。心理学家爱德华·哈洛威尔(Edward Hallowell)博士说,想要你的孩子有安全感,他们必须要培养两种关键的技能:一、克服逆境的能力;二、维持喜乐的能力。他说:“生活充满了失望。一个人只有通过首次失败和学习尝试,尝试、再尝试,才能充分发挥自己的能力。”那么,如何教导你的孩子在逆境中喜乐呢?唯一途径就是将他们引进喜乐的泉源。以赛亚说:“我因耶和华而无比喜乐,因我的上帝而心里快乐,因为祂给我穿上救恩的衣服……”(以赛亚书61:10)大卫说:“你把生命之路指示我,你右手有永远的福乐,我在你面前充满喜乐。”(诗篇16:11)耶利米说:“万军之上帝耶和华啊,我把你的话视为甘饴,它们是我心中的快乐和喜悦,”(耶利米书15:16)上帝从未应许赐给我们一帆风顺的生活,但祂的话语说:“圣灵所结的果子是仁爱、喜乐……”(加拉太书5:22)

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